When You Freeze Up on a Phone Call
I get it, phone calls can be intimidating! Especially when you're trying to make a good impression or have an important conversation. But what if I told you that freezing up is normal? Yeah, I know, it doesn't feel like it in the moment, but trust me, you're not alone!
Let's face it, performance anxiety can be a real killer (pun intended). You start to worry about saying something wrong, or coming across as awkward, and before you know it, your brain goes into panic mode. Suddenly, you're struggling to form sentences, let alone have a coherent conversation. It's like your mind has turned into a jumbled mess of anxiety and uncertainty.
So, what can you do when this happens? Well, for starters, take a deep breath! I know it sounds simple, but sometimes we get so caught up in the moment that we forget to breathe. Try inhaling slowly through your nose, holding it for a second, and then exhaling through your mouth. It might sound cheesy, but trust me, it works!
Another trick is to use what I like to call "recovery scripts". These are basically little mental prompts that help you refocus and get out of your head. Here are some examples:
- I can do this. Repeat it to yourself, like a mantra: "I can do this, I can do this..."
- Take it one step at a time. Break down the conversation into smaller, manageable chunks. Focus on one thing at a time, and don't worry about the rest.
- I'm prepared for this. Remind yourself that you've prepared for this call, whether it's researching the topic or practicing your responses. You're not winging it!
And if all else fails, try to reframe your thinking. Instead of worrying about what might go wrong, focus on what could go right! Think about how good it'll feel to have a successful conversation and make progress on whatever you're working towards.
So, the next time you find yourself freezing up on a phone call, remember that it's okay! It's normal, even. Just take a deep breath, use your recovery scripts, and refocus. You got this!
The Bottom Line
Phone calls might make you nervous, but they don't have to be the end of the world! With a little practice and some mental tricks up your sleeve, you'll be a pro in no time. So go ahead, pick up that phone, and crush it!