why do phone calls make me feel socially evaluated

Why Do Phone Calls Make Me Feel Socially Evaluated?

I'm not alone in this feeling, am I? You're probably thinking, "Girl, what's wrong with you?" But hear me out – phone calls can be straight-up intimidating. And it's not just because we're worried about saying something stupid (although, let's be real, that's a major concern). It's because our minds are wired to believe that every conversation is an opportunity for others to judge us.

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As someone who's super attuned to the vibes of those around me, I've come to realize that this judgment sensitivity can be both a blessing and a curse. On one hand, it helps me navigate social situations with ease (I mean, who doesn't want to know what's acceptable behavior in any given situation?). But on the other hand, it can lead to some serious anxiety when it comes to phone calls.

You see, I've always felt like I'm being put under a microscope during these conversations. Like, my every word is being analyzed and critiqued by the person on the other end of the line. And don't even get me started on the pressure to be entertaining – I mean, who doesn't want to laugh at your jokes or commiserate with you about your problems? But what if I'm boring? What if they're just humoring me?

So, why do phone calls make me feel so socially evaluated? Well, let's break it down:

I'm a sucker for attention – and when someone is actively listening to me, it feels like the whole world is watching.

I've been conditioned to believe that my worth is tied to how others perceive me (thanks, societal pressure!).

I'm terrified of being misunderstood – what if I say something wrong or come across as insensitive?

But here's the thing: this internal validation training needs to stop. Like, it's time for us to take control of our own worth and let go of the need for external approval.

So, how can we do that? Well, I've got a few tips:

Schedule calls strategically**: Don't put too much pressure on yourself by scheduling calls when you're feeling stressed or overwhelmed. Take time to relax beforehand and mentally prepare (or don't – your call!)

Practice self-compassion**: Remember that everyone has bad days, awkward conversations, and occasional misunderstandings. Be kind to yourself when things go awry.

Focus on the conversation, not the judge**: Instead of worrying about how others perceive you, try to genuinely connect with the person on the other end of the line. Ask questions, listen actively, and show interest in their life.

And hey, if all else fails, just remember that phone calls are a form of social interaction – they're not an opportunity for us to be judged or evaluated. They're a chance to connect with others, share our experiences, and grow as individuals.

So, the next time you're feeling anxious about a phone call, take a deep breath and remind yourself that it's okay to be imperfect. It's okay to make mistakes. And most importantly, it's okay to just be yourself – judgment-free zone, anyone?

why do phone calls make me feel socially evaluated

Why Do Phone Calls Make Me Feel Socially Evaluated?

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